We have already written about cunnilingus and how to prepare for it. However, oral sex is not limited to them only – girls may want to give a blowjob. The sexologist told how to make the practice as comfortable as possible for women. 

What should be taken care of in advance?

Think about protection

First of all, you need to take care of security. If you and your partner have not been tested, it is advisable to use a condom. In addition to STIs, there are also diseases of the oral cavity, for which it is better not to engage in unprotected oral sex. Mouth ulcers, untreated caries and other inflammatory processes can provoke diseases in a partner. 

Learn anatomy 

Before a blowjob, you can get acquainted with the male anatomy: which part of the penis is more sensitive, which is less. So it will be easier for you to understand where to caress your partner and what to do. 

Discuss your expectations with your partner 

You can ask your partner what he likes and share his expectations. What techniques and positions you want to try, where the partner will ejaculate. 

It would be nice to indicate what you think is unacceptable. And this applies not only to techniques, but also to the behavior of a partner during sex. For example, to warn that you will not tolerate depreciating phrases like “Those who were with me before did better.” It is worth initially designating your boundaries so that in the process you will be clear, comfortable and safe. 

Discuss techniques

Before a blowjob, you can watch simple techniques: what you can do with your tongue and different parts of your mouth. At the same time, it is not necessary to use only the mouth – you can help yourself with your hands. They can serve as a good limiter to regulate the depth of penetration. Also, if the compression of the mouth and the work of the tongue around the penis is not enough, you can additionally stimulate the partner with your hands. 

On this topic, you can read:

• Sex Bible by Paul Joanidis
• “He Cums Again” by Jan Kerner;
• “I finish again and again. Oral sex and other ways to please each other”, Elena Galetskaya;
• “Playing the Magic Flute”, Ekaterina Fedorova.

Take care of hygiene

A man can take a shower, and a woman can rinse her mouth. Do not brush your teeth right before a blowjob. Because of this, microcracks can form, and through them it is easier for microbes and infections to enter the body. If you are going to use your hands, the nails must be clean and tidy so as not to accidentally injure your partner. 

Designate a stop word

Stop words or stop gestures are needed to immediately stop the process if something goes wrong. During oral sex, it is still better to use the stop gesture, since it is inconvenient to talk during a blowjob. You can, for example, pat your partner on the thigh. 

What exactly should not be done? 

Ignore body signals

Some blowjob techniques can cause a choking effect and a gag reflex. Do not turn a blind eye to these signals. So the body tries to show that it is uncomfortable. The reflex is necessary for our body, and you should not kill it with special training. Remember that sex should bring pleasure to both and do not force yourself to do what you do not like. 

Be careless with each other

The penis is a rather vulnerable and fragile part of the body. Do not make sudden or twisting movements so as not to harm your partner. 

It is worth asking the man not to try to regulate the process, if you have not discussed this in advance. For example, without asking to control the movements of your head with your hands – this can harm both.

In what positions is it more convenient to do a blowjob?

For a girl, the most comfortable positions are those in which she easily controls the process. That is, it is convenient for her to move her head, mouth, tongue, and she can stop at any moment. You can try the following poses: 

• Classical : a man lies, and a woman is located frontally above him. Her face is in front of her partner’s hips. For convenience, a pillow can be placed under the man’s pelvis. 
• 69: The man is lying down and the woman is on top. The man’s genitals are in front of the woman’s face, and hers is in front of the partner’s face. In this position, both can stimulate each other.
• 69 on the side: the same, but both partners lie on their side. 
• Kneeling : The man stands or sits while the woman kneels in front of him. In this position, it is convenient to adjust the tilt of the head. A girl can put a pillow under her feet. 

The opinion that all men like a throat blowjob is a myth. For him, you need to say thanks to films for adults, where this technique is often found. It is very impressive, first of all visually. Also, some people believe that a throat blowjob brings special pleasure. The throat of a woman in the process, due to reflexes, contracts and trembles, and this is how the head of the penis is stimulated.  

Indeed, there are men who like this practice, but not all. If you don’t want to, don’t force yourself. Physiologically, the body is not adapted to close the entrance to the pharynx for a long time. If you are uncomfortable, very sensitive, or just scared, never do this and don’t need to prove to anyone that you can and can do it. You can also bring pleasure with the help of simpler techniques that allow you to create a vacuum. 

What other life hacks are there to make a girl feel comfortable? 

• If you are on your knees or elbows, place pillows under them. The same goes for postures when you or your partner are lying on the floor. You have to make sure everyone is gentle. 
• Interfering hair is best removed in a ponytail or stabbed. 
• It is advisable to take off jewelry: earrings, rings, chains, bracelets. They can get caught on a condom, clothes, pubic hair of a partner and, in principle, interfere with the process. 
• I recommend using a lubricant. It can facilitate movement, because sometimes saliva is not enough to glide. Especially if you do a blowjob in a condom. Lubrication can be added both under the condom and on it. 

Flavored lubricants can add variety to sex or make it more enjoyable if a woman doesn’t like her partner’s taste. You can use lubricants with additional effects, such as the effect of exploding bubbles. 

Lubrication will also be useful if the partner has a circumcised penis. When a man is uncircumcised, the foreskin provides protection for the glans. Circumcised men do not have this, so the penis is easier to damage. Lubricant can help prevent injury. This may require harder movements, as the penis may not be as sensitive.